In honor of Memorial Day tomorrow, I’m taking a step way from the Be Mindful series for this week’s blog post. I’ve pulled together a number of links with great ideas for a garden in memory of a loved one. Before you leap into exploring the links, here are some highlights of what you might find, with my commentary:
For a veteran, plant a garden with red, white, and blue flowers.
While a memorial garden with flowers blooming all at once can be a lovely reminder during a certain time of year, you might also think about plants that offer their colors in different seasons. White daffodils in spring, blue-blooming shrubs and perennials in summer, a tree or shrubs that flame red in autumn.
A special tree for a loved one could be appropriate for a pet, too.
A small ornamental tree with new growth and fall foliage in colors reminiscent of your tawny Maine coon or an Irish setter might be all you need for fond recollections.
White or pink dainty flowers are often suggested in memory of a child, especially an infant.
Here, something ornamental such as a marble cherub can add a sense of hope. A spring bulb garden can be appropriate here, bringing a feeling of permanence and renewal through beauty that can ease grief.
Plants used in memory of someone can be placed together in a special spot.
Or, consider locating them throughout your garden. If your loved one enjoyed a plant’s fragrance, add it to various garden areas. Every time you walk by or open a window and catch a whiff of the scent, you’ll recall the person’s delight. This idea works well for plants that bloom with the loved one’s favorite color and also for plants included because the plant name reflects the person’s name, such as Iris or Rose.
Think about your memory garden providing joy.
If your strongest memories are of fun and laughter, plan a space for a reminder. You may not want to add it immediately, but a funny-shaped plant or a garden ornament that makes you smile and would have drawn a chuckle from your loved one is a perfect addition when you’re ready.
And remember containers, too.
You can have that memorial up close and visible from indoors as well as outside. A significant plant or group of plants on your deck or in a window box can be a wonderful way to spark memories even if you can’t go out due to rain, cold, heat or wind.
Your garden can be a source of solace and of spirit when you use plants as part of your strength.
Memorial garden links: